After {Five Minute Friday}

I am joining in with LisaJo Baker again this week for Five Minute Friday.

Here's what you do:

1. Write for 5 minutes flat on the prompt with no editing, tweaking or self critiquing.
2. Link back and invite others to join in.
3. Go and tell the person who linked up before you what their words meant to you. Every writer longs to feel heard.

The theme this week is 'After'

Go!

Have you ever made a mistake?  The worst part, in my opinion is after the fact; when you realise you've done wrong and then have to deal with the consequences.  That sick feeling in the pit of your stomach when you know that you are going to have to face something that you'd really really rather not.  I, for one, am great at dodging dealing with stuff.  Burying my head in the sand and pretending situations don't exist?  Easy!

The thing is, God doesn't want us to live like that.  We have to learn to think wisely before we make our mistakes, and, for those times when we forget, we have to learn to act with grace and humility.  To go back and deal with those consequences we'd rather pretend didn't exist.

I remember one time on a work night out talking to my then boss and he said to me "why do you have to explain yourself to anyone?  Just be who you are and the rest of them can get lost" (This is the clean version!)  Wouldn't that just be a great way to live?  To be able to live your life without fear of having to come up with justifications for your behaviour, without having to worry about how other people view you.  To be however you wanted without ever having to offer up a single explanation for the way you have acted.

Except...it wouldn't.  People would get hurt, relationships would be damaged, it would be difficult to move forwards.  Life would be total chaos.

We are living in the 'after' of the sacrifice that Jesus made for us when he took our sin and our shame on himself.  That means we have a responsibility to make good on that.  That means there are consequences to the way that we live our life.  That we need to choose to live wisely and honourably. 

"Summing it all up, friends, I'd say you'll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious - the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse" Philippians 4 v 8-9 {The Message}

Easier said than done sometimes!  But, when we do choose to live our lives that way there is an amazing response.  I believe people feel secure in being part of your life because they know and understand the way you operate and respond to that.  Relationships are real because everyone is on the same page; if you make a mistake and you are willing to admit it, apologise (if necessary) and move forwards then that earns a lot of respect.  Especially, I have found, amongst people of have a fixed image of what being a Christian is.

In our church family at the moment we're learning a lot about community and living life like Jesus.  Amongst real people living real life, which means walking with them through real situations.  Being ourselves and not trying to be a 'perfect' image of something we will always fail to live up to thereby letting people down.  It means sometimes having to swallow our pride and admit that we have got it wrong but I prefer it 100% to trying to pretend that I never fall down.

Living in the 'after' demands certain things of you, yes.  But it also allows a great sense of freedom.  Jesus died not just to cover the bad things you would do but also to give you the freedom to be the amazing person he designed.  That's the kind of 'after' I can get on board with!

Stop!

Hmm, a bit more rambly than last week.  I'm afraid I lost my way a bit with this theme!  I hope it made sense to those who chose to read it.  As someone who enjoys perfecting the things she writes I'm not sure whether I find it liberating or terrifying not to be able to go back and correct.  It is a literal splurge of my thoughts out into the open!